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The Elvis Oatmeal

Oatmeal with peanut butter and sliced bananas. Yum!

Homestead

This weekend, I helped my parents move out of a house they’ve lived in for the last two decades.  It was crazy, packing up twenty years of their lives into brown boxes and a U-Haul truck.  My younger brother, my sister, and brother-in-law were also there to lend a hand.  The mood was energetic and hectic and frustrating all at once.  They kept some furniture, sold a lot, and donated the rest to charity.  Until they finally vacate the house in a few days, all that’s left in the family home are an inflatable mattress, a TV, and a computer. 

My parents had had their house on the market for a couple of years, and everyone was elated when they finally sold it.  On one hand, I’m happy for them as they get ready to transition to a new city, a new state.  On the other hand, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of loss.  By extension, it was certainly somewhere to which I knew I could always “come home.”  I had a room there, which, in spite of the many iterations it had undergone since I actually last lived there, they’d always referred to it as “Jon’s room.” 

It was weird to watch as strangers walked out of the house with my parents’ furniture.  I felt a sense of melancholy as I placed on the curb items they were giving away for free.  Sure those knick knacks would never be of use to them any longer, but those things were always in the house, in the background, instant memories in the form of fixtures and wall art and handmade ceramic bowls.

I suppose the reason I feel such loss is because that house belonged to the family the longest.  We moved a lot while we were younger, staying at the same place for three years or less.  Therefore, those other houses were not as memorable as this last one.  My younger brother went through elementary school and high school while living in that house.  I can only imagine how he feels.

I know in the end it’s just brick and mortar and wood and shingles.  And that “home is where the heart is.”  But I can’t help it.  I will miss that house.

Ways To Be A Better Loser

I read a magazine article written by Tim Sanders (www.twitter.com/sanderssays) that talks about the time when he was working at Yahoo! and, despite a strong effort, he lost a major advertising account to AOL.  When it happen, he and his team were obviously devastated, with a few choice opinions about the AOL team.  Sanders later detailed how he saw the AOL team at a gathering soon after, and he decided to go up to them to offer his congratulations.  It wasn’t long before he was chatting them up about marketing strategies and other industry talk.  His team chided him for sucking up and cavorting with the enemy.  He offered that he knew there was a learning experience from the encounter, and that it is through those learnings that improvement can happen.

He offered the following tips on being a ‘better loser’ (excerpted from the magazine article):

Show respect to the winner.  You can’t hate them enough to improve your future performance; that’s unsustainable motivation.  If you always claim that they won unfairly or because you “can’t win for losing,” you’ll never see a way to win.  Winning is more contagious than it is exclusive.  Once you’ve drained the negative energy out of the equation, study the victor.  Itemize what those victors got right and how it influenced the final result.  Find something to admire about them, and then deconstruct that attribute competitively.

Learn from your defeat.   Blame and denial may feel good, but they never help you learn.  Unless your competitor cheated to win, you were beat either on price, technical ability or fundamentals.  Identify the fundamental rules-of-the-road that you might have broken during the competition.  Isolate the technical reasons that you were “outscored” in the eyes of the customer/judge/scoreboard.  Imagine a rematch, with your revised approach based on your newfound intelligence, where you catch up or pass your rival.

Let it go.  We hold on to our defeats too long, allowing them to magnify and take on mythical status.  If you don’t let go of it, you’ll start playing not to lose instead of to win.  If you don’t let it go, you’ll get beat down and drain energy out of everyone else.  Freaking out is contagious.  So long as you recognize your rival’s strengths and reviewed your approach and execution, it is OK to let the loss go and start thinking about how you’ll do next time.

I bet those in competitive sports follow these tips.  I also believe coaches for team sports subscribe to these approaches.  It’s easy to be a sore loser.  But it’s more productive to be a better loser.  As Tim Sanders summarized, “I’m not suggesting you get comfortable with losing, just be effective in your response to it.”

Well said.

[Excerpts of the article printed without permission. If author contacts me to have excerpts removed, I will do so.] 

 

 

I Knew This Would Happen…

So.

I recently got an iPhone 3Gs through and because of work and, in a matter of days, I’ve naturally become very addicted to it. It’s like my Blackberry days from nearly a decade ago, when all someone had to do to parody me was to have a PDA on hand.

I was very obsessed with it. If I could, I would have slept with it. (Waitaminit…I think I did. Thankfully we both used protection.) Anyway, this was why in 2003 I said enough was enough and I gave it up for s standard cell phone.

And things have gone fine until I got s job where being mobile was the name of the game. But I’ve held out on buying an iPhone for fear that it was going to consume my life.

Sure enough here I was this morning reading and responding to work emails on a Saturday. I know I could simply ignore them but it’s hard to do. But I must discipline myself to function in my new reality, set boundaries, preventysekf from being a 24/7 kind of guy.

God help me…

It Wasn’t A Hoax…

Richard Heene, the “Balloon Boy” dad insists the incident in October ’09 wasn’t a hoax, and that he pleaded guilty to “protect his family.”

What incident?  I know, I’ve tried to forget about it already but the effers keep resurfacing, thanks to “the news.”  And, oh, wait…there is now a Wiki page about it.

And, guess what, now there’s also this blog entry about it.

I’m not helping to forget this effing thing, am I?

(Wow, someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning…)

Happy @#$%^ing New Year, Peeps!

So, here’s my obligatory First Day of the New Year post. And, yes, it’s going to include the “best of the best posts” of 2009 because WordPress makes it easy to get that info.  Without further ado, here are the Top Ten posts in this humble blog that received the most traffic in the year that was:

  1. The New Bond: A Quantum Leap
  2. Preity Zinta: Very ‘Preity’
  3. Song Hye Kyo: Beautiful
  4. Actor Heath Ledger Found Dead in NYC Apartment
  5. On This Day in 1993: André the Giant Passed Away
  6. Gaga for Olga
  7. Crap! My Laptop Won’t Start
  8. Bipasha Basu
  9. Take Two Aleves and Call Me in the Morning
  10. All About Jon

Also, for some reason, I woke up this morning with this song in my head but the version sang on The Simpsons.  Unfortunately, YouTube failed me, and the only one I could find suitable enough to post on this blog (in order to annoy the lot o’ ya) is this one:

Please don’t judge me…

p.s. HAPPY NEW YEAR!